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Tiff says...Be the cheerleader not the critic

4/1/2018

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“Anxiety in the heart of man causes depression, but a good word makes it glad.”
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Instead of being a critic or giving a negative response, be the motivator and give positive responses and reactions.


I have always been told I was mean and angry and the age I am now, at this point I really don’t care. People are going to label you what they want to anyways and not allow you to grow...IN THEIR EYES. A major thing we all need to understand is that We are all human, we all breathe the same air and all have blood that pumps through us the same, so no one person is better than the next.
Just because someone doesn’t walk around smiling, jumping and cheering for joy all the time does not mean they are mad, mean, angry or bitter. You don’t know what that person has been through in their life, what they experienced earlier that day, week, month or year. Hell, when you see a person not smiling instead of pre-judging them, speak to them and smile at them... it can change a person’s mindset, mood and even brighten their day from that moment on. They could be in deep thought about something, anything.


Work, family, business, etc. A lot of times when people see me they be like ‘smile, it’s not that bad”, ‘is everything ok?’ so on and so forth. But to be honest y’all most of the time I don’t be mad or upset, I be thinking about something else.
(I’m finna be a little more transparent)
For me....honey that SOMETHING ELSE can be a multitude of things:
Family
Significant other
Sensual Bliss
Bedroom Bliss
Work
Military
Hell the FAMILY part ALONE boggles down my mind most of the time! Having 3 brothers, a little sister, a step sister and 3 nephews and 1 & 1/2 nieces!
(my step sis is currently preggars)
That is stressful as hell!
I am the one my siblings (from my mother) call when they need something.
I am the one my mother calls when she needs something.
I am the one my grandmother calls when she needs something.
I am the one my siblings call when something goes wrong...
I have ALWAYS asked myself why, like why can’t y’all figure it out without me?
Even now being gone away from home I still get the calls. Not as much right now because most of the things they’re calling about they realize I can’t fix while in Africa. 🤷🏽‍♀️

To bring it back to the message...
Whether it’s a family member, a friend or a stranger when you see them not smiling or looking mean don’t judge... because really?
Who are you to judge anyone?
Smile at them, say something positive to them in an attempt to turn their day around.
A little bit goes a long way ... in many forms.


A kind word from you can change the next persons whole day.
One mans trash is another mans treasure.
$20 to one person is 10,000 in currency to another.
The leftover or scrapped food on one’s plate is a whole meal for another family.
The old work boots in the garage is the next mans new work boots.


I think I’ve made my point in this post..
I know some may think my posts are all over the place and random, but let’s remember this is my outlet...
This helps me get through my weeks here.
I watch people go through bullshit everyday with their job and the ones putting them through it are unaware and careless of the mental and emotional state these people are in.
We ALL are here everyday busting our asses... some more than others...
And EV-VER-REE-DAY they have to come in to some bullshit that is geared and focused on making them miserable.
Instead of trying to get to know, encourage, uplift and strengthen these people, they’re constantly finding ways to break them down, criticize and belittle in an ATTEMPT to make them miserable.
Who does that?
~~~> A negatively critical and MISERABLE person.


Don’t be the critic, be the cheerleader.
Find your light and inner peace within yourself so you can be happy and allow others around you to be happy.




Until next time, my loves
~Tiffany Elle~
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Deltrice Anderson
4/29/2018 10:10:33 am

Amen!!!

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    Tiff Said...

    Hey it's just me and I'm just going to write what ever the hell I feel like telling ya'll about each week, as often as I feel like it. It's my healthy outlet to say, write and do what I want. Life's a journey, enjoy the ride!

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